Monday, December 12, 2011

Post Wedding Weekend

I survived the wedding weekend, even though I had to suffer through 2 migraines.  One started during rehearsal dinner (possibly triggered by fellow bridesmaid's strong perfume).  I had to miss the wedding day brunch on Saturday which was hosted at my mom's house.  I hid at my grandmother's house.  Thankfully, the migraine subsided for the actual wedding ceremony and reception.  The band was incredible, though I did not throughly get into the dancing as much as usual due to being completely stone cold sober.  One of my cousin's bridesmaids, who is a 34 year old doctor, pulled out the worm on stage.  I was in awe.  I think the last time I did the worm was 20 years ago! In case you need a refresher on the worm, here is this link -

Needless to say, I woke up the next morning and felt like I had drunk a bottle of champagne.  Another migraine.  It completely sucked!  I think it was the overstimulation of loud music, yelling over the music, salty food and freezing my ass off in a strapless dress in December.  Tylenol doesn't help much.

I did share my news with my friends this weekend and everyone was so genuinely excited for us.  My hometown is small and my mom has probably told half the town my troubles with getting pregnant.  In a way, sharing the news is like an initiation into the "Club."  People love to talk about their kids and now I can be interested and excited, instead of bitter and uncomfortable.  It's weird, but I do feel a little bit of survivor's guilt.  I don't want people to think this was an easy thing for us.  So I preface the news, we are "finally" pregnant.   I have absolutely no shame in doing IVF to get pregnant.  I thought the whole process was fascinating and I am would happy to talk to anybody who is having trouble getting pregnant about it.  I feel like it saved our life and our marriage in a way.

I ran into a friend at that wedding who is doing IVF at CCRM and she told me they have 11 normal embryos waiting for them!  I am so excited for her.  She did about 3 (or more) unsuccessful cycles in MS and decided she would go to Colorado for last resort.   I can't believe she had that awesome of a result.  Surely, there's a take home baby in there somewhere.

Well, those are the highlights of the weekend (minus migraines).  I have had nice day recovering.  My husband is on a business trip for 4 days in Denver, so I am enjoying the peace and quiet.  Now time to get going with Christmas gifts for the fam.  If Christmas came more than once a year, you'd have to put me in Whitfield  (what my grandmother used to say all the time - Whitfield is a mental hospital in MS).

Love to all you out there - I am so excited about these great betas and BFP's that are popping up everywhere!


  1. I think it's awesome that you are being up front and open about IVF. When I go public, I plan to include that detail. I think it's important that people are aware of it, IF or not. Thanks for all your support, btw! Really appreciate it.

  2. oh hon I hear you on being sober at a wedding!!! I had a wedding two weeks ago and my sister said to me "chon you were not in many photos" I said sober people don't get in photos!!

    Glad things are going well. It feels surreal doesn't it!

  3. I think it's great that you're being up front and honest about your struggles to conceive and having to go the IVF route. I don't understand why so many people are so secretive about it. There should be absolutely no shame in it. Good for you! 11 normals - WOW!

  4. It took me a few weeks of announcing my pregnancy to realize I don't have to say "And we did IVF for this baby" every single time. I still hint at it every time though : )

  5. I have had so many fantasies about the moment I get to share my pregnancy - I hope the reality was as good as my fantasies are! Congrats...

  6. I don't care which way I got pregnant and I am proud to say to anyone that it was a miracle and really awaited pregnancy. I also feel it saved my life and marriage.

  7. Argh! I hate migraines and yes, Tylenol does nothing to help with those. I'm glad, though, that you were able to make it to the ceremony and enjoyed the reception. Glad that you got to share the good news!!